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21. my discipleship group and the power of prayer

They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. Acts 2.42

I love my discipleship/accountability group and I could not imagine going weeks (or years as I had been before) without those strong relationships; relationships where we can disagree, hash it out and know that it we will still be okay moving forward. I’m okay with them confronting me about my stuff even when I may or may not want to hear it at the time; even when I don’t realize it’s there.

And it’s because of Jesus’ use of those relationships that he’s forming me into the woman God intended me to be and for that, I am eternally grateful.

I met Rick first, back in the fall of 2005, while I was away at college. I had just started my sophomore year and, having fallen in love with the local church I attended, I wanted to find a way to get more involved. I had been involved in a campus ministry but didn’t feel connected or part of a community; not the way I did when I was at that church.

That September, I received a postcard in the mail about a new college ministry that would be starting up at my church. They were looking for singers, musicians and others interested in being on the leadership time and after “chewing on it” for a few days, I emailed Rick and got my foot in the door. We met that November during one of the bands’ first meetings.

I met Holly shortly after and although our friendship at the time didn’t have the depth then as it does now, I’ve enjoyed going into those deeper waters with her, knowing that Jesus will keep us afloat the further we drift out as long as we remain in him.

It’s been nine amaznig years since and Rick has become more than just my pastor. He’s one of my best friends and a pretty stand-up guy (minus all the teasing I get). It’s been an immense blessing to watch God work through him in the lives of those his touches as well as knowing that I can get a solid, truth-filled answer or opinion if I weret o seek one out.

The same goes for Holly and I met her shortly after. She’s intense and in my face when it comes to most things and while there are moments when I want to kick her out of my apartment or walk away, I love her. It amazes me how a person can frustrate and move you at the same time. Only out of the love and grace of Jesus Christ is that possible.

In this last year, we made the decision to start meeting at least once every three weeks to discuss more deeply what God’s been doing in each of our lives, seeking out truth together, and being the iron that sharpens another (Proverbs 27.17).

Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Romans 12.2

We’ve devoted ourselves to one another to learn from Jesus’ teaching and from those of his God-inspired followers (Paul, Peter, John, etc.). We’ve devoted ourselves to fellowship and community with one another and just last night, we talked about what that should and will look like in our church. We sometimes enjoy food or coffee together, partaking in the elements of communion with the rest of the body and we always pray for one another, sending sporadic notes of encouragement throughout the week/month.

Combining this with my relationship with Jesus, I’m being transformed from the inside out. I’ve seen the evidence of this my life, which is now, so much fuller.

I am so grateful for those who have chosen to partner with me and God in helping me become the woman he created me to be…especially when they have to call me on my junk when it shows.

Accountability goes a long way, as does love, truth spoken in love and a large dose of grace when it comes to these relationships.

Rick and Holly – I’m so incredibly thankful for you and I pray that God also enriches your lives with blessings, not earned by these actions, but because you are his children, my brother and sister, too.

Week 10: Girl Talk

And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another – and all the more as you see the day approaching. Hebrews 10:25

Accountability. You’ve heard about it. You’ve probably read about it. And some of you may even be doing it. According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, accountability is the quality or state of being accountable; an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account one’s actions. It’s a check and balance system designed to protect us from harm from ourselves and others. It’s a sure sign of character. It says you are liable, responsible and answerable for your actions in life to God; accounting for what we are up to. It allows us to be answerable to one another and focuses on key relationships with one another and focuses on the key relationships in our lives.

One of my closest friends just moved here. I praise God that He’s chosen her to be a part of this amazing task (the Vine) and for getting her here safely. We were catching up the other day when the idea hit that we should start a small Bible study; getting together once a week just to dive into Scripture, gain different perspectives on His Word and its application to our lives and to hold each other accountable. We also wanted someone who would challenge and push us in our own individual faith walks.

We met for the first time this past week and are going through the book of Nehemiah. It’s amazing how applicable even the first chapter of the book was to both of our lives, here and now, and especially with this new church plant. It’s also been amazing to finally have that one person I can go to for accountability (and vice versa).

Being accountable to her has enabled me to share my life with her (as well as our core group at the Vine) and has helped me get to know her as well as myself in a deeper manner. Most of our relationships in life tend to be casual and superficial, but we also need a deeper connection. God created us for deep connection (Ecclesiastes 4:10-12).

Romans 14:12 says that even God holds us accountable: So then each of us shall give account of himself to God. And according to 1 Corinthians 12, we are accountable to one another. There is no separation of churches. We all service the same God. We are all part of the same body. No one part is more important than the other.

Our society runs rampant with accountability groups that assist people who would like to overcome an issue, an addiction or any other tendency. Humans seek support, comfort and motivation from others who have either gone through or are going through similar life circumstances. Accountability consists of trust and the ability to relate. Accountability involves a willingness to open yourself up and share sensitive, private or personal information. This is why trust is so imperative. Without it, accountability will not succeed. People who relate to one another can empathize and share with an understanding heart.

Galatians 6:1-2 sheds some light on this subject: Brothers [Sisters], if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.

Are you accountable?
Do you have a friend or two to whom you can go?
Will that person or that group hold you accountable in your spiritual walk?

Are you the type of person that people can come to when they need accountability?

Pray about it. Seek out who God would have you turn to and follow His lead.