goodbyes are hard

Yesterday, I wrote about letting go of all that hinders – found here.

I’ve been learning that following through on that may include saying goodbye to those things that hold me back or no longer serve the purpose God has set before me.

And that’s exactly what I have to do; what I am doing/going to do.

Personally, I’ve never liked the term goodbye. It seems so final. As if I’ll never see that person again. I typically don’t end conversations with a close friend with that word – instead, it’s see you or later, maybe even a simple bye, followed by I love you.

This instance is not the first time I’ve had to say goodbye, nor will it be the last. I’ve said goodbye to friendships that never got off the ground and others who have run their course. I’ve let go of dreams and said hello to new ones. I do that all the time.

There’s also the matter of death and loss.

I’ve been blessed in the area of loss…the closest relative I’ve had to say goodbye to was an uncle, who wasn’t really all that close – relationally anyway. And yet, it was still a loss.

If there is one thing that life has taught me, is that it doesn’t stay the same. It’s always changing and the fact that I haven’t lost anyone close to me could, in fact, happen at any moment. We’re not guaranteed tomorrow, you know.


This isn’t about being a nice person and keeping tabs on every little thing (people, relationships, situations) that have ever crossed my path. That would be incredibly exhausting and stressful.

This is about releasing to God what is his…and that happens to be everything he’s given me.

In the last six months, he’s been teaching me plenty. I’ve learned that happiness starts with me – not with my relationship status or the number of friends I have; the number of things I have to do in a day (although I do enjoy being busy – to an extent) or my job. None of those things can make me happy.

That being said (and combined with the close of another year), I’m saying goodbye…

  • To 2013
  • To old habits
  • To lies I’ve believed
  • To relationships I have no reason to hold on to or have.
  • To settling. Period.

Am I not grateful for having experienced all that I have this year? I am. Truly. Deeply. And will always be.

Not all love lasts, but the lessons love brings us to do. – Mandy Hale

Is this final? Probably, at least until God calls me home – I can’t make that determination for others as I cannot see their hearts. Only God can. I simply pray that God will deal with them just as he’s dealing with me; with amazing grace, tender mercy and unfailing, unending love. That part isn’t my responsibility. It’s my responsibility to let go.

I’m ready.

When the past calls, let it go to voicemail. It has nothing new to say. – Mandy Hale

I’m in the midst of a transition into a new season of life, and what once was a part of this season will not fit. They will fall away. It’s time.

And it’s time that I release my life, my heart, my dreams – all that I am – to God’s care, where they all rightfully belong. Granted, I’m not perfect and I am sure there will be days when I’ll take them back, only to release them again. All of life is a process and I am no different. I’m not perfect, nor would I ever claim to be. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: I am a work in progress.

When you let go, something magical happens. You give God room to work. – Mandy Hale

Will it be easy? No. Nothing worth fighting for is, but in the end, it will be worth it.

I have had the call of God on my life since I was four and while I’m still figuring out what my calling is, He’s creating something new, helping me become the woman he created me to be and, honestly? I can’t wait to meet her.

[My] life should be so fulfilled and purposeful and centered in God that [I] see it as the cake and love as the icing. With or without the icing, a cake is still a cake. – Mandy Hale


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