You know what song is pouring through my mind as I write this?
Hello, My Name Is… by Matthew West – click here
It’s a popular one on most major CCM radio stations in the Twin Cities and I’ve heard it twice already today.
The verses start out with “Hello, my name is regret…defeat…” You know those words. I do. With every fiber of my being. They’re familiar. And we think they’re comfortable. That couldn’t be further from the truth.
What you name something is immeasurably important. Kate Middleton, for instance, no longer goes by Kate. She goes by Catherine. See the difference? Kate is more of your modern, day-to-day name. It’s a name of normalcy. It’s fun. But Catherine… now that’s a dignified name and more appropriate to her role as a royal.
What is your name? What names do you go by to those who love you? What do they mean?
Without going into too much detail (this is the internet after all), the name I was given at birth means grace.
My middle name means God is gracious.
I like that, personally. But do I really live it out? Have I truly embraced that part of me?
How about the names of some important biblical characters?
Sarah means princess.
David means beloved, friend.
Daniel means God is my judge.
Elizabeth means My God is bountiful.
Peter means Rock.
Let me take this one step further (along with the assistance of Stasi Eldredge) and ask you the following:
What names do you call yourself? What do you say to yourself when you pass a mirror? What do you tell yourself about your post-weight-loss body or your post-delivery body or your premenopausal tummy or your memory that so often seems to be slipping away? What words do you use?
Or what have others called you? What have you believed yourself to be true because of those words?
Growing up, I didn’t fit in. I still don’t, but I’ve grown to be okay with that. I’ve accepted it. But, not fitting in when you’re a child leads to territory I wish no one would have to claim or endure. I don’t remember many of the names or statements that were carelessly tossed around, but terms like stupid, idiot, ugly, short, and inadequate still stand out to me. Perhaps you had a similar childhood or home life while growing up. Maybe you still do.
There is power in what we name ourselves and in what we believe ourselves to be. There is power in what others name us as well. Both the power to bless and the power to curse come from the heart and flows out of the mouth through words. What we call something, what we are called, whether good or evil, will play itself out in our lives.
What you call yourself, someone or something is powerful. It affects your life, your relationships, and your walk with God. Stasi would also say that what you call yourself “affects your ability to become who you are meant to be” (pg. 217 of Becoming Myself).
God knows this. And He calls you Beloved.
I love that term. It has a deep, personal meaning to me, so much so that I now wear it permanently on the inside of my left wrist. It’s a constant reminder of Whose I am and it rings loud and clear on some of my darkest days, when I need it most.
What does that mean?
It means one greatly loved.
Dear to the heart
It means admired, adored, cherished, and darling.
Beloved means dear, dear one, dearest, esteemed, favorite, honey.
It means ladylove, light of love, loved one, lover, precious, prized, respected and revered.
Beloved means you.
It means who you are to Him.
And who you are to Him means everything.
This is where your true identity lies. It’s also where mine lies…often as I seem to forget it.
God calls you to believe this. Time and time again.
He endlessly pursues you and won’t stop until you are completely His. It’s a transformation process; it starts on the inside and eventually illuminates everything you are and eventually, those around will see it and won’t be able to help wanting that too. I’m on my way there. So are you. He simply calls you to believe it.
The fruit of knowing this, of truly believing that you are His beloved, is intimacy with him and is shown through humility in your life.
“Humility is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less.” – C.S. Lewis
Wise words. We cannot live our lives thinking highly of ourselves (being puffed up – that’s pride) or thinking less of our selves (also pride…God opinion does not lie here). This thinking is dangerous. You cannot live well, you cannot love well, and you cannot fulfill your destiny if you do not know who you are. You cannot become your true self if you do not know who you are to become.
Who are you?
You might be like me in the fact that I just got so irritated with my last caller’s request that I rushed through getting her connected with the right department rather than taking a moment to let her feel that she is loved and cared for. I’ll be right back…
Okay, I’m back…needed to clear the air between Jesus and me for a second before I continue.
Who are you?
Going back to the song that’s been pouring through my head as I pen this: The chorus continues with this truth: “my name is child of the one true King. I’ve been saved. I’ve been changed. I’ve been set free. Amazing Grace is the song I sing..”
That couldn’t be closer to the truth.
God sees me as lovely, but lovely thoughts have not been filling my mind just now. Actually, they haven’t been for days and I need to give those thoughts to Jesus and let him take care of them. There are days when I really need help… When you and I believe that our truest identity lies in being a sinner. What we call ourselves and when we put equal weight on what others say, we believe those lies. It affects how we live, move and and have our being (which shoul only be in Him). We walk around ashamed, accused, condemned and unworthy of being called His. We are separated from God and this is exactly what the Enemy wants us to believe and how he would prefer we live.
I’d like to hit this one home with Staci’s help: “When the focus of our heart is solely on our failings, then our heart spirals down. God tells us not to focus on our failings but on his faithfulness. He calls us to gaze not on our brokenness but on our Healer.”
We tend to move toward what we focus on.
Keep your eyes on Him and learn to believe the truth of your identity. You are His.
“Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith.” Hebrews 12.2
Sources: “Becoming Myself: Embracing God’s Dream of You” by Staci Eldredge…found here