Devotional for Monday, August 12, 2013:
But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere. James 3:17, NLT
I don’t know about you, but I’m always right.
Ever feel that way? So many of us–men as well as women–fall into the trap of self-absorption and act as if we are the only one with a valid perspective. After all, what are most arguments about but a struggle for the distinction of being “right?” The thing is, sometimes we’re right, and sometimes we’re wrong. And sometimes when we’re right, we are wrong in the way we handle the situation–because being right is not necessarily the same as being wise.
The Bible teaches us that wisdom is pure. My idea of being “right” is rarely pure. It is all about me and my reputation. The Bible also says that wisdom is peace-loving, gentle at all times, and–here’s the real kicker–willing to yield to others. That is definitely not my version of wisdom. My version results in frustration, while true wisdom results in mercy, good deeds, and sincerity.
Imagine what our relationships would be like if we admitted when we were wrong and were quick to show mercy when the other person was wrong. In all relationships, this means sometimes yielding the control and making compromises. And in a marriage, this might mean yielding a situation to your husband and then having mercy if he is indeed wrong. Sometimes we must yield the control and trust the Lord to be the guardian of justice.
In one of your relationships, is there some tension about who is right and wrong? Stop and ask God for his wisdom. When you are tempted to fight for your way, ask God for peace, and respond with mercy and sincerity–what an amazing testimony of God’s love you can be.