Love is Not Proud

Humility is perfect quietness of heart.
It is to expect nothing, to wonder at nothing that is done to me, to feel nothing done against me.
It is to be at rest when nobody praises me, and when I am blamed or despised.
It is to have a blessed home in the Lord, where I can go in and shut the door, and kneel to my Father in secret, and am at peace as in a deep sea of calmness, when all around and above is trouble.

~Andrew Murray

How many relationships would be saved if just one party would apologize? Marriages? Pride is truly the root of so many evils.

Pride is the single most widespread problem we face. None of us are immune to it. Everyone is prideful, even if they don’t want to admit it. Pride can be obvious or subtle, but pride is not God-honoring. Pride does not help us love anyone but our self. Pride got Satan kicked out of heaven. And pride did the same to us (and can).

It’s the way of the world, but it’s not a godly quality that the Lord wants to see in us.

Pride and arrogance are stepping stones to lust, to selfishness, to anger, to contempt. There’s no room for pride in a loving relationship – pride takes up too much space. Really loving someone means being willing to admit faults and shortcomings. Love puts others first, even at the expense of ego or dignity. Pride just doesn’t fit into that scenario.

A pride person makes decisions based on what will make them look the best. They’ll take others down to build themselves up and hurt feelings to keep from admitting wrong. We don’t think we’re being evil when we’re being prideful, it seems right, even good, at the time. You know yourself well enough to know where your pride resides. Capture it, and act in love. Be willing to be wrong and admit it. Be ready to step aside when someone has a better idea. Respect them in love.

Jesus gave the ultimate example in this. He repeatedly said that he came to the Father’s will. Not his will, but God’s will. A prideful person cannot submit to another because it would bruise their ego. We see no filthy pride or ego in Jesus, the Son of God.

Remember the Samaritan woman at the well we discussed the other day? Jesus took time out of his day to connect with her. She held a priority in his heart. He connected with her at her place of need. And once that connection had been established, he revealed who He was. If Jesus were prideful, He would have just come out with His true identity right away. Yet, in His humble manner He creates a relationship, elevates the woman’s worth and value in that society and revealed Himself in a gentle and kind way. (John 4:7-26)

Love dissolves the ego. Love melts down all the selfish underpinnings causing pride to form in us. In love, we come to understand position, power, authority, and things are of no value. In love, we come to understand only Christ is of value. In love, we are not stuck up because we are willing to take a lesser position.

How are you mirroring your Lord’s humility? Do you brag about how great you are? Or do you wait for others to praise you in due time? What motivates you? Are you out for your own benefit? Or do you seek other’s benefit before your own? Do you build relationships to reach others for Christ? Or do you blast them by pointing out all their sins and reciting Bible verses at them?

If we truly seek to become the loving people God calls us to be as His children, we need to deal with the issue of pride. We need to learn to lay down our will for God instead. When God’s power of love comes over a person’s life, all the things of earth, the things we think are so important, pass away. Love does not have time for pride because love is too busy helping others, supporting others, and glorifying God in all we say and do.

Scriptures to encourage you today:

This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you. There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. John 15:12-13

And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death – even death on a cross! Philippians 2:8

The fear of the Lord is to hate evil: pride, and arrogance, and the evil way , and the forward mouth, do I hate. Proverbs 8:13

If my people who are called by My name humble themselves, and pray and seek My face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land. 2 Corinthians 7:14

He leads the humble in what is right, and teaches the humble His way. Psalm 25:9

When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

Today’s Challenge: Lay down your desires for the benefit of someone else. Help someone else. Suppor them. And glorify God in the process. Add this to the other four challenges.

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